How to win friends and influence applied to social networking

I found this great article that someone tweeted about. What if you took the famous Dale Carnegie book and applied it social networking?Well this article talks about just that: social networking Dale Carnegie-style.

 Read the original posting here.

Become a Friendlier Person
1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Smile.
6. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most
important sound in any language.
7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
8. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
9. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Actions to Be Friendlier on Facebook

Comment on friends’ status updates, ask questions

Remember your friends birthdays

Repost their links, initiatives if you find it worthwhile

Say or post something that makes you happy, and explain why

Recommend a friend

Actions to Be Friendlier on LinkedIn

Congratulate job changes

Ask someone a question related to their experiences

Answer posted questions

Refer people who you admire

Write a recommendation for someone who you enjoyed working with

Actions to Be Friendlier on Twitter

Reply to someone’s tweet

Retweet someone’s tweet

Suggest people follow someone, and don’t do it as part of “Follow Friday.” Follow Friday is a meme and lacks sincerity and impact.

Write a positive tweet about something good

Don’t engage in negative personality-attack tweeting

Win People to Your Way of Thinking 
10.The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
11.Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
12.If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
13.Begin in a friendly way.
14.Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
15.Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
16.Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
17.Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
18.Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
19.Appeal to the nobler motives.
20.Dramatize your ideas.
21.Throw down a challenge.

Actions to Win: LinkedIn & Facebook

Create a group to engage thought leaders, interesting parties. Ask their opinions.

If logic/position is not factual, ask them how they came to that position.

Don’t say they’re wrong, yet state your facts. Ask them what they think.

Socratic method is a great way to engage. Sometimes writing out logic in an online group helps expose and address weaknesses.

Admit & amend wrongs

Challenge people to come up with answers.

Acknowledge and seriously weigh responses on any of these issues.

In areas of conflicting opinion, ask people to find a compromise.

Give credit to anyone who contributes to ideas used.

Actions to Win on Twitter

Engage in a dialogue on meaningful issues.

Remember, Twitter is public. Let folks save face.

Admit and amend wrongs.

Don’t flame, rather ask and state your dialogue.

Give people an out. It’s 140 characters, not a debate club.

Look for the positive result, and celebrate it. Laud your conversation partners

Be a Leader 
22.Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
23.Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
24.Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
25.Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
26.Let the other person save face.
27.Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your
approbation and lavish in your praise.”
28.Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
29.Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
30.Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Actions to Lead (Across All Social Networks)

Rather than dictate answers, ask questions of the community.

Give the minority a respectful voice and place within the discussion.

Self deprecate rather than attack others.

Thank and encourage other people’s contributions.

Reward top participants!

Make as many heroes as you can.

Suggestions and multiple options work. Directions don’t.

Article written by Geoff Livingston